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Is you child throwing tantrums, well it is a normal childhood reaction to anger and frustration, of course this doesn't make it easier on you as parents, and sure it will end in time, but lets work on the problem now. We can.
Did you ever think about how to change this situation with your child, don't forget it is not people's reactions, it is your reaction to an action that is most important. One thought would be to pick a certain room in the house and tell the child well you are throwing another tantrum so you'll have to go to this room as I just won't sit and watch you in the room that I am in. You would be surprised at the actions of the child when told this, sure they'll go in protest to that room, but they sure won't like it. In the room they were throwing the tantrum perhaps they
were playing with their favorite toy or watching a favorite video and now they have to leave the room. Tell the child, well when you are quiet and your are finished you can come back into the room where you were playing, etc. Tantrums are more fun to a child when they have an audience, don't forget that little fact, it is true.
Try also to perhaps rock the child back and forth and try to soothe her and tell her it's okay, now you need to calm down and get over this. Even get a cool washcloth and wash her face to cool her off a little, this may help. Try giving her a nice drink of water or any other liquid she might like, this may help.
As long as the child isn't doing anything to hurt herself or another child, then perhaps tell her you are leaving the room as you just don't want to listen to her noise and for her to come and get you when the noise ends. Get busy, and let her know you have other things that interest you instead of hearing her have that tantrum.
Sometimes when you get to know the signs of a tantrum very well you can try to distract the child to make her forget all about whatever problem is causing the tantrum.
Offer her choices, like 'would you like to get into your night clothes' or 'would you prefer to wash your face, potty and brush your teeth' if telling her to just get ready for bed doesn't work and it sets off a tantrum.
If the child is old enough to have certain privileges you might tell her well if you throw another tantrum you won't be visting your best friend next door tomorrow, sometimes that helps.
If you have your child doing some chores and learning responsibility you might tell her, well the next time you throw a tantrum you'll have to do an extra chore to earn your allowance, this may help also.
Don't worry too much about the tantrums as they go away, if they don't over a long period of time naturally you'll consult your pediatrician, a counselor or a family therapist, but don't jump into any of these conclusions until you have tried a few of the points I have shown you above. Just take this tantrum situation one day at a time.
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